We’ve been conditioned to believe self-deception is the default mode.
We’re more likely to be self-defeating when we’re stressed.
We can’t help but compare ourselves to others.
We are more likely than others to be insecure about our own abilities.
We have a tendency to believe our failures are our fault, when in fact they’re our fault for not being good enough.
We think we know better than others what we should be doing to make ourselves happy.
We believe we’re better than the people around us. 8.
We feel guilty about not being “successful.”
We want to be the best version of ourselves.
We see our peers as flawed, when they’re not.
We blame others for things we can’t control.
We become depressed when we feel anxious.
We get defensive when people criticize us. 14.
We assume that everyone is just as bad as we are.
We expect everyone to treat us well, when really they just want to hurt us. 16.
We imagine our family members will make our lives better than we do. 17.
We try to be a good parent.
We underestimate how much effort it takes to become a good person.
We make up excuses for things that are not our fault.
We fail to acknowledge that others are not as good as we think they are.
We avoid discussing our problems, even if we have the opportunity to talk about them.
We view other people as flawed because they don’t live up to our own standards.
We judge others for not treating us well or treating us unfairly.
We often think that we deserve to be treated unfairly.
We worry about how others will respond to our problems.
We rely on others for support, even when we don’t feel we need it. 27.
We take advantage of others for what they can give us. 28.
We focus on others’ faults over our own.
We act selfishly and take advantage for what we can.
We give others excuses for our behavior, even though we feel it’s our own fault.
We forget that we are in control of our own lives and can’t always control the way others act.
We find it hard to trust ourselves and others.
We don’t believe our own advice.
We attribute our success to luck.
We overestimate our own accomplishments and underestimate others’.
We ignore the importance of other people.
We prefer to trust our own judgment.
We seem to be in charge.
We like to think we’re smart, and not really.
We seek to be perfect.
We compare ourselves with others to validate our own self-esteem.
We accept others for who they are, even in their faults.
We fear others will judge us unfairly because of what we’ve done.
We hide our shortcomings so that we can be seen as strong.
We exaggerate our strengths to impress others.
We overvalue our accomplishments and undervalue our failures.
We use others to justify our own failures.
We tend to overestimate how much we can do. 49.
We confuse our own successes with our weaknesses.
We perceive others as inferior.
We doubt ourselves when we see others struggle.
We let our own needs get in the way of our success.
We deny others the benefit of our achievements.
We turn our back on others when we need to. 55.
We obsess over our achievements and focus only on ourselves.
We keep looking for excuses for what others are doing.
We lie about what we’re doing, even to ourselves.
We look at the people in our life with disdain and contempt.
We spend our time and energy trying to improve ourselves rather than helping others.
We need to be loved, not feared.
We tell ourselves we’re perfect.
We pretend to be someone else to get attention.
We say things like “You’re so wonderful.”
We show weakness, even toward others.
We complain about our achievements when we should actually be grateful.
We cling to self-talk instead of taking responsibility for our actions.
We convince ourselves that we’re not perfect, even after we’ve made the same mistakes many times.
We refuse to acknowledge our weaknesses, even as others try to help us. 69.
We choose to be alone, even over others.
We put ourselves in harm’s way to get the attention of others.
We do our best to feel good about ourselves.
We neglect others.
We play victim when we can